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The loneliness epidemic

12th August 2018, Author: Nic Higham

We yearn to stop our loneliness and our overwhelming sense of incompleteness

We organize our lives around back-to-back blocks of interaction, stimulation, and distraction. We’ll even tolerate acquaintances we don’t particularly like, feeling that it’s better to be distracted in company than to face the abyss.

Living our life in this way is often chronic and debilitating; it suppresses the blossoming of Self-realization and our strength and abilities because we have an outward-looking, lack-driven focus. Self-alienation and estrangement lead us to fear being alone and unconnected and make us overdependent on others. And the desire to put an end to incompleteness typically ends up intensifying our isolation.

We’re coaxed into a false consciousness that is meant to give us a sense of ontological security. Alienated, we are strangers in our own lives, strangers in a world of otherness, uncertainty, and death, and no one can help us figure out our strange, forlorn existence. Can there be a lonelier predicament? Our willingness to be with our angst may just uncover a lightness of Being. Beneath our self-made dualistic existence lurks an existential anxiety, the abyss of nothingness that threatens to annul our attachment to all that we strive for. But this nothingness is not a threat. It’s the threshold of a truer state of Beingness—Aliveness.

Far from being comfortable, anxiety, as I’ve described above, has the power to liberate us, unearth awe-inspiring insights, and dissolve our perfect fantasies. This means anxiety and loneliness leave us “unclothed” and defenseless, but this is a bountiful state for valuable discovery. That is to say, living from an ongoing stance of fresh and dynamic inquiry and meditation means looking at life and ourselves, beyond surface appearances.

Our tranquil foundation has always been present; the vast sky has always been there. You’ve been overlooking the setting because you were fascinated with the buildings or the stars—the “structures” of your inner and outer environment which comprise characteristics, concepts, qualities, values, beliefs, activities, habits, and mental imprints or impressions. Structures crumble. Stars eventually die. You’re the primordial foundation, not the ideas you have about yourself; they too will fade.


From the best-selling nonduality book ‘Living the Life That You Are: Finding Wholeness When You Feel Lost, Isolated, and Afraid’ by Nic Higham 

Amazon link: http://a.co/2tSE9S2